Life-Changing Events
Thu, Sep 4, 2008 - 2:37pm EDT
I'm a couple days late updating my site. And although I'd rather not be late, I'm okay with the fact that I am this time. As I headlined above, Life-Changing Events have taken place. However, I'll wait until September's update (at least) to list the main stuff because I'd rather give courtesy to certain people and tell them personally before just webcasting it all over the place.
In the meantime, my Calendar won't be correct, and it might not be until October ends that I even fully grasp what my Standard Weekly Schedule will be. I'm now busy various mornings, afternoons, and evenings, with various activities. Hopefully September's update will have it, but realistically my goal is October. Yeah, don't expect a Links or FAQ/QnA update anytime soon. Hopefully I can do that stuff by the time this year ends.
Otherwise, I indirectly learned something from the Dead Sea Scrolls trip: I have idiosyncracies for which I must constantly prepare. Whether I use them for good, or buffer myself for others not having them, I must try to keep them in mind when dealing with others, be it in education, entertainment, or even romance.
Education? I like to fully immerse myself wherever possible; it turns out I'm the exception. Oh well. So like in a time of group study or something similar, I'd do well to provide for myself a way to come and go when I want, because there's a great chance I'm going to be the very last one hangin' around. Also, many seem fine in hearing the Whats; I usually prefer to hear the Whys (to the Whats); well, often this has me explaining to others the Whys behind my Whats--which I often forget that most likely they simply don't wanna hear or, at any rate, usually don't need to hear.
Entertainment? Again, full immersion. I'll detail a real-life example from this past month (which took place after I learned this about myself). A friend/brother and I wanted to watch Batman Begins on DVD (to remind ourselves everything that had happened) before watching The Dark Knight in the theatre (which he had already done anyway). After taking everything into account, I watched the DVD I got from the library the night before; that way, I could freeze-frame and zoom in on certain onscreen texts, keep subtitles up to know everything being said and rewind if I missed it, and see every single extra that both the movie and bonus-features discs had to offer--which is not something that would've interested the other guy (nor most other people, it seems. Go figure). Not to mention, I wouldn't've wanted to rewind and stuff with him around; I would've just let the movie go forward and missed that part, for his sake, not even saying anything about it. But indeed, I got to totally immerse myself into that world. The next day, it turned out his doctor's appointment took SOOOO long for no especially good reason, that he wasn't able to watch Batman Begins that afternoon anyway. Well drat. Fortunately, I already had. So, we got to see The Dark Knight at a decent hour and all, and whaddya know, people nearby behind me kept whispering stupid things to each other during the film. For that matter, my friend/brother said a few short remarks himself. Years ago, that would've bothered me to no end. After I learned some stuff a couple years ago, that wouldn't really've gotten me at all. After I learned stuff a couple weeks back, good, cool, he's enjoying his time, we're having our own fun, etc. Realize that in all this, there were plenty of scenes where the audience was totally quiet, and I still was missing some things being said. Oh well. Just a movie. And something of a social event anyway. I'm not an island. The world certainly doesn't revolve around me. And even though I came to learn that some years ago, now I'm more in mind to actually prepare myself for such--if I can just think to do so anyway.
Romance? Like with Education, I'll forego the real-life example. Basically, my two primary options are 1.be my direct, explicit self, and those ladies I scare away, well drat, they wouldn't've been interested anyway, je suppose, or 2.try to do all the implied "game" stuff, which I can do to an extent, but which tends to rack my brain with unsurety, which leads to insecurity, which leads to paranoia, which just isn't good at all. But even then, with Option 2., whom would I be attracting? Someone with whom I'd then have to strain myself to keep up all the implicative stuff? Or someone with whom I'd eventually just get down to upfront explications and then find out the problems? Ugh. It might seem to take longer to find someone using Option 1., but really, in the long run, I'm just sure it's more efficient. Time-saving, stress-saving, and if I wind up with someone (using this approach), then very good for her, too, because she gets to deal with that which works for her--which is what I'd want anyway! As for being open and explicit, I don't have to "show my hand" in full (and there is wisdom in that), but what I do say, I want to just blatantly say and get it over with. So much better that way.
There were some other Life-Changing Events, but I don't generally like talking about other people's lives. Just point is, I've been very busy with real things, and that's why I decided to update late this time.
theUndiscovered
Brandon W. Horton
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